Blogging to stay alcohol free

Blogging to stay alcohol free.

I really do think that writing a blog in recovery can really help. The ones that I really like at the moment are those written by people who are really getting their act together, in the first few years of recovery. They have often formed informal groups which are growing and offer each other support. They share feelings that they have to deal with as well as solutions to common problems. They are able to make friends with people who are often at similar stages of recovery or to offer support to those who are new.

Lots of them find new activities to do to replace the drinking and this creates a really positive message for those thinking about starting out on an alcohol free lifestyle. Many are helped by these blogs and can see how people change over time. They are proving that you can change your life without having to join a formal support group such as AA, which is the way I started, which I rate as the worst part of my alcohol free life.

These people often email each other daily for the first 100 days or so and encourage each other to put down the glass. They often have great names for the voice of cravings such as “Wolfie” or the “wine witch”. This reminds me of the approach I read about in the “Rational Recovery: The New Cure for Substance Addiction” by Jack Trimpy. This was an important step for me as it made me realise that the cravings and my addiction were something I could fight or tell where to go. I felt empowered and realised that the powerless approach was no longer suitable for me. I moved on from AA and the 12 steps, and after a while I connected with some like-minded people at the fast-moving “stinkin thinkin” blog. Ilse Thompson was one of the people whoo wrote that blog along with Mark and she has now got a book coming out about recovery . However she is not alone. Many of the other bloggers are also writing books.

From the soberistas site you have this or this I reviewed this here even this

Karen Black also blogged on the soberistas site but now has her own blog at where you can find details of her book “Sober is the new Black” which I reviewed here

I know another member is going to be published soon from this blog which should be good.

All these books talk about ways people have beaten their problems with alcohol with a method that was suitable for them and revolves around putting the drink down, filling the time and building self-esteem and seeing the benefits of life without hangovers.

If I wrote about my first year it would be full of tales of 300 boring AA meetings, accepting strange useless advice from an old-time sponsor and labelling myself as an alcoholic, which I look at as a really negative self-image. The only book that was sold at AA meetings, about stopping drinking was the dreadful “living sober”. I learnt a bunch of stupid slogans and read chapter 5 at every meeting. I did meet a few people worth meeting in these groups but also quite a few that I would rather have avoided (several murderers, a diamond thief, some gangsters, a bogus financial advisor and a lot of predatory homosexuals).  I suppose I could have written something interesting about them, but this probably would not have gone down that well with members of my meetings.

They told me to keep coming back! I think I will stick with the bloggers! They seem to have found a better way, and are certainly safer and more fun. They have also made much more progress in short space of time compared to many who go to formal programs.


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  1. Just spent an hour figuring out why the comments box had gone! It works if you know how to work it!

  2. Glad you worked it! Thanks for the reminder that I haven’t blogged this week. I have been thinking about the actor Phillip Seymour Hoffman today, after he lost his battle with addiction and died with a needle in his arm. He got sober at 22 after a drug/alcohol addiction and by his own account was sober twenty plus years. I believe the relapse came after becoming addicted to some sort of prescription drug. He left his partner of 15 years and their 3 children. The message I take away from his tragic death is that one should not get overconfident in one’s sobriety, and be ever vigilant of the danger of relapse. Tovebird

  3. Yes it is really sad when somebody relapses, especially after a long time. Some people do not really learn how to deal with bad events in life in sobriety. I saw a few people relapse and really go for it when I went to AA and believe the negative self image they crate by calling them-self an alcoholic so often may be a factor. It is always tragic when it happens, but when somebody goes on a binge after years away from substances, it can often get bad. It is less likely to happen to people who replace addiction with positive ways of spending time, but I dread to think what happened in this case.

  4. Glad to see the comment section working again. I thought I got bumped or something!

    It is so very sad about Mr. Hoffman. What a way to go. What a way to leave your children. My heart breaks for them.

  5. The comments went because of a setting on quick drafts! Nearly drove me mad trying to figure it out. Really bad about Mr. Hoffman, just shows how dangerous going on a binge can be if you have not touched something for some time. Monica has just done a show about it on blog talk radio

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