New Blog Critical of AA

Here is a new blog critical of AA by another person who has left.

It was a difficult decision for me to leave AA, even though I was questioning what was going on in meetings and its effectiveness. Other people seem to find this is a problem as well so I am always glad when people are prepared to share their experiences. This new blog looks good and has been started straight after leaving AA. I waited a few years and have a different perspective as a result. I hope this helps those who are struggling in the rooms at the moment and who want to take charge of their own recovery.

Here is the first Blog post.

The first few days

I went to my last meeting last week. I am already feeling better, I am less anxious and the near depression I was feeling is already starting to fade. I also noticed that I was frustrated and I don’t know how long I’ve felt that way, thankfully that is fading too.

I told some trusted friends what I am doing, I don’t know why because now I don’t care who knows.

At this point I’ve also decided that from now on even when someone probes my answer will be that I am someone who chooses not to drink. I don’t feel the need to disclose why I don’t drink anymore, I have done my part and given much more than I have taken. I’ve probably also put up with too much over the years too since I chose to live a principaled, virtuous and honest life long before I was in aa and in hindsight, my risk was I chose to be around a lot of people that were not.

Out of my own volition I chose to be around people that told me time and again what kind of person they were. They were usually in almost direct conflict with my personhood. I’ll have to forgive myself and not do that anymore.

All in all, just a few days in and I am feeling better. I am pretty much relieved every time I turn around. I have found gratitude again in most things that were just about driving me crazy.


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  1. I am thrilled to find this site. I tried AA and in-patient treatment and failed both miserably. The guilt that I felt, and sometimes still experience, for not recovering through those methods is real, and I’ve had AA aquaintences imply that I was fooling myself. I didn’t appreciate the fact that AA seemed to expect me to share my dirty laundry with a group, and if I didn’t, I would surely go back to drinking. After multiple attempts through AA and treatment, I set out on my own to find a way of recovery. I spent weeks researching, and found there are medications, specifically, acamprosate and naltrexone. I read the mostly glowing reviews, and was extremely skeptical that using meds would work, and that it would be the “easier, softer way” that AA warns you of. I went to a psychiatrist and explained my situation. She admitted that the professional recovery community rarely, because of lack of knowledge, uses medications for alcohol addiction. I started these meds and the effect was nothing short of a miracle. I am now 18 months without drinking. Mind you, I was not naïve enough to do this without finding out why I used alcohol, so I have been attending counseling frequently in order to make the mind adjustments that I need to live a fulfilling life without alcohol. I am not blasting AA. It has obviously worked for many, and will likely continue to do so. It did not work for me. I am a fiercely independent person who cannot blindly throw myself into a 12 step program if it doesn’t work for me. There is actually logical theory in the steps, and I get that. The fact of the matter is, my search for a remedy led me to meds and counseling, and this is where I will stay. One resentment…….it angers me that the recovery community of professionals can only refer you to the status quo, which is AA. I spent thousand of dollars unsuccessfully completing in-patient treatment (it is so expensive) and countless days of despair feeling that I was a failure in AA, etc. I felt trapped and miserable, and my drinking only got worse. Doctors are supposed to know about all kinds of healing for ailments. Why not the recovery professionals? To me, that verges on malpractice. I know that sounds harsh, but the time and money I spent having to reach my own conclusion for recovery could have been avoided had I known all options. As with any disease, there are alternatives to any treatment. I am thrilled to have been able to share here, and hopefully, will maybe help someone else.

    • TRhanks for commenting. So many people are angry about how they were treated in Rehab especially when all they got was 12 step. Perhaps somebody will bring a class action for malpractice against a 12 step rehab in the future which would probably help other more modern methods break through. I hope everything works out for you.

  2. AA’s indoctrination language in [How it Works] is an unethical psychological trap that blames you if AA does not work for you. AA universally denounces blaming others, yet AA does exactly that at the start of every AA meeting. It’s perfectly ethical and valid to blame AA for blaming you.

    • A lot of the religious, outdated language in AA bothered me as well. I found the Big Book was more effective as a cure for insomnia rather than alcoholism. A lot depends on a person’s background and beliefs as to how they react to what is said in the rooms. Some meetings are pretty cult like full of thumpers which will set a religious type agenda, others are more open. If you come from a religious background you could get heavily influenced in a bad way there. I just used don’t have a drink today, which is the bottom line for AA which worked. I was cynical about the religious side and it did not change me too much. We did some podcasts about experiences in AA with Jon who got more involved with AA than me and we talk about things such as this and the steps and look at good and bad sides

  3. well i tried going back to my old church recently and I stopped everything.they were very nice kind at first then they just started sounding like AA.and began controlling.i left that church when i was young.sank into addiction then went to AA.i had vowed never to try religion again but that’s all I seem to try.aa seemed very much religious to me as did NA .im all through with trying.i find that if i get drunk i hate im going to try not to get drunk.AA made me hate myself pre AA i didn’t hate my fortnightly day out in the pub.pre aa i didn’t hate myself for having a drink.what i am doing now instead is doing things that help me to stop thinking and feeling like a bad perosn for having a drink.

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