Success with Smart Recovery by other people.
Success with Smart Recovery by other people.
I am always happy when I get to read stories about people who have turned their life around after dealing with the difficulties they face. Beating serious alcoholism is tough, especially if you have been an active abuser of alcohol for many years, which was the case with me. I was not some youngster that was a bit immature, and who got sent to rehab by concerned parents. I was middle-aged by the time I realised that it was me or the drink and it felt like a massive thing to give up. I respect anyone who has the courage to face up to their problems and take control of their life and respect whichever method they use for support. Smart Recovery seems a really good method for support and has really grown in the last few years.
l really secure, living an alcohol free life today and do not fear relapse in the way that I did in my first couple of years. I have certainly had some tough tests, and some difficult issues to deal with since I gave up drinking, but I have the tools to deal with my life today, and also know when I have to ask for help which was not some thing that I used to do at all. Even though, I have managed to move on, I still feel amazed that I have managed to turn things around and do feel that the whole experience has affected me. I cannot help reflecting on the past, especially as my life is so different now. I am much physically fitter than I have been for years and my whole self-image has changed. It has taken a lot of work, but it has really been worth it. I am always looking out for different methods to make things better.
I often read other people’s blogs or look at sites where people talk about positive experiences. From what I can see, the more effort you put in the more likely you are to succeed. I think a lot of people do well when they really engage with the recovery process, and become part of a community. For many years the only real option for doing this was in the 12 step world, and although attending AA and being part of group can help, many people do better in a different environment.
The last post on this site was about Smart recovery http://www.recoveringfromrecovery.com/smart-recovery-overview/which I like because its methods are a combination of group support and learning techniques that lead to members having better coping skills and higher self-esteem. Many people who become involved with Smart Recovery have tried traditional 12 step methods before hand, and have often not felt comfortable with the religious or powerless parts of the 12 step AA program and have looked for an alternative that is more rational in approach.
The story linked here http://www.smartrecovery.org/resources/library/memberstories/chindi.htm resonated with me as I used drink to try to cope with many issues in life including relationships and also had dreadful problems sleeping at one point. This story was on the Smart Recovery site and is about somebody that looked at AA but felt it probably was not the best approach for them. There are many ways to recover, and I feel that groups that are modern in approach and who modify their methods after reacting to developments, are really worth looking at. AA has a lot of tradition and seems stuck in its ways. It has the one advantage of having many meetings, and so almost everyone can benefit from some fellowship and group support, but I do not feel that the 12 steps were relevant to my recovery.
Anyway here is a section and you can read the rest here
SMART Recovery was shown to me by a counsellor in another program when he felt that they had helped me about as far as they could. What started out as a plan to quit drinking has turned into a journey to change my life and ways of looking at it. Since I choose not to talk about it with my family or friends and I refuse to talk about it at work, SMART Recovery has given me somewhere to come and discuss my journey with others who understand and pass no judgment. They are traveling their own journey. I have come to realise that for every one of the billions of people on Earth there are an equal number of roads traveled as people live their lives. Yet, when we leave that individual road many of us end up in the exact same ditch. It’s when we try to climb out of the ditch that some of us find SMART Recovery. We help our self and each other out of the ditch through support in the chat room, discussing issues and the SMART Recovery tools in meetings and reading and sharing insights and wisdom in the forums.
This started out as a plan to quit drinking. With SMART Recovery I have learned and now have at my disposal the tools needed to keep from ever going back into that ditch. It will also lead to a much fuller and happier life in the future.
Here are some of the highlights of what I’ve learned so far:
1- We must hold our self accountable for our actions, make the tough decisions and do the hard work our self. Nobody else can. On the other hand, this also allows us to give our self praise and acknowledgement for the successes that we achieve.
2- We must accept the past. No matter how terrible it was and no matter how awful things were, it is the past. We have to learn that if we can’t forget it we must find the proper place to put it and move on with life.
3- Life is life. It has nothing personal against us. Sometimes bad things happen, sometimes good things happen. We have to take it in stride and go with the flow. IT’S NOTHING PERSONAL!
Please Donate Today! 4- Sometimes other people’s actions are personal and do affect us. We can’t let those things dictate the quality of our life. I’m at a loss for words to express this in a deeper sense so I will leave it to you to interpret my meaning.
5- And this, the most important lesson. Do not ever, ever sit down to write a short post when you
when you are jacked up on a quadruple shot hazelnut mocha.
Chindi May 2007